Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
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Resources for Introverts & Fighting Loneliness

Per multiple requests, here are some books and other resources I have found useful for social skills and socializing...


The Art of Friendship: 70 Simple Rules for Making Meaningful Connections by Roger Horchow & Sally Horchow. St. Martin’s Press, 2006.

A Beginner’s Guide to Crossing Cultures: Making Friends in a Multicultural World by Patty Lane. InterVarsity Press, 2002.

Everyone Wins! Cooperative Games and Activities by Sambhava and Josette Luvmour. New Society Publishers, 1990. Indoor and outdoor games for all ages.  Best book on cooperative play.

Friendshifts: The Power of Friendship and How It Shapes Our Lives by Jan Yager. Hannacroix Creek Books, 1999.

The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For by Alan Lov McGinnis. Augsburg Fortress Publishers, 25 Anniversary edition, 2004.

Fun Friend-Making Activities for Adult Groups by Karen Dockrev. Group Publishing, 1997.

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Haden Elgin. Prentice-Hall, Inc., 1980; also updated ebook format. This is the core text which introduces the whole Gentle Art paradigm. The ebook edition is available at various places, including this one Best book on nonviolent communication.

How to Be a Gentleman
by John Bridges. Rutledge Hill Press, 1998. Recommended for BOTH genders, as the matching “Lady” book is much less practical. This volume includes many fine examples of how a genteel person should reply to potentially awkward questions and comments, along with common conversational mistakes to avoid.

Johnson's Emotional First Aid: How to Increase Your Happiness, Peace, and Joy by Victoria Ann Johnson. Blue Dolphin, 1997. Practical techniques for coping with troublesome feelings.  Best book on mood management.

Overcoming Loneliness and Making Friends by Marianna Csoti. Sheldon Press, 2006.

Raising Compassionate, Courageous Children in a Violent World by Janice Cohn.  Longstreet Press, 2001.

Try To Feel It My Way: New Help for Touch Dominant People and Those Who Care About Them by Suzette Haden Elgin. John Wiley & Sons, 1997. Detailed exploration of one preferred sensory mode; touch-dominant people are a minority and often have trouble making friends with sight-dominant or hearing-dominant people.

Virtual Foreplay: Making Your Online Relationship a Real-Life Success by Eve Hogan.  Hunter House, 2001.  Despite the title, this is also good for friendships online.

When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You by Jan Yager. Fireside, 2002.


Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture,” no author listed, reference taken 8/25/08. See also related discussion on LiveJournal.

Big Brothers Big Sisters – A volunteer organization that matches children with older mentors.

Chrononauts: The Card Game of Time Travel” – A fun game to play that balances cooperation and competition.

Facebook – A popular social networking site that connects friends online; lets you share your news, blog posts, photos, links, etc.

Fluxx” – A wacky card game of ever-changing rules that exists in several differently-themed decks; terrific for parties or just hanging out.

Imaginiff” – A fun party game that’s good for getting to know people better; you ‘imaginiff’ each person were a type of item and pick options from a list, trying to match what other players will say.

Twitter – A social networking and microblogging service that helps people stay connected in realtime.  Twitter fans say you can develop a kind of "social proprioception" for understanding what your friends are doing through the day.

Volunteer Resources” – Offers tips for successful volunteer experiences.

What are some other books or resources you'd like to add?

Tags: community, family skills, reading
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