Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
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Notes for "Symptoms of Heartbreak"

Here are the notes for "Symptoms of Heartbreak."


"Trusting you is my decision. Proving me right is your choice."
-- Best Trust Quotes

"I got trust issues because people got lying issues."
-- Best Trust Quotes

"It’s hard to trust when all you have from the past is evidence why you shouldn’t."
-- Best Trust Quotes

"Pistanthrophobia
(n) fear of trusting people due to negative past experience."
-- Best Trust Quotes

"Loneliness, trust issues, depression, suppressed anger. These are some symptoms given from heartbreak."
-- Best Trust Quotes

Feeling unwanted, unloved, and unlovable are common effects of foster care and other traumatic experiences. Troubled teens share their perspectives on these issues. Positive bonds can aid in healing from trauma, but survivors often resist these. Here are some ideas on how to cope.

(These links are miserable.)
Attachment is vitally important in foster care. Unfortunately, the first thing that foster care always does is put stress on attachments, and most often winds up ripping them out by the roots. Victims of multiple placements therefore learn to avoid caring about anyone or anything else. This form of child abuse is routine and legal, but it does massive damage, which is difficult or impossible to fix. Foster children often become so terrified of the "people movers" taking them away again that they avoid reporting abuse or neglect. Blainn has been handling his problems by running away.

Survivors of foster care may need support from caregivers to form healthy relationships. Sometimes, strong relationships can help heal trauma.

(Some of these links are intense.)
Trust is complicated for abuse survivors. The often feel that they can't trust anyone. This may have been, or still be, correct distrust. In Blainn's case, he has gone from an untrustworthy environment to a more trustworthy one, but his past leaves him struggling to distinguish between untrustworthy and trustworthy people. Other people may not even realize why they have trouble with trust. Some people claim that trust is mandatory, but emotions can't be mandatory. Certainly it is useful in a team and vital for a healthy relationship. But don't try to shame people for not feeling that way. There are ways to gain the trust of emotionally different people.

There are long and short cards for emergency contacts. You can print your own, or sometimes find them at safety events. In T-America, most community centers and emergency services have these; so do many organizations such as schools or large businesses. Ansel and Turq discussed this in "A Safe Refuge from the World."

See Blainn's cert wallet. Likely Boss Finn gave him that as a perk for earning his first cards. Many people carry such things in T-America so they can present their most-used certs as needed.

Foam building blocks like this set are ideal for small children who haven't all learned not to throw things yet.

Enjoy recipes for Homemade Roasted Tomato Basil Soup and Grilled Cheese Sandwiches.
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