Cuoio's Italian cottage has its major furnishings are all done in neutral colors, so that accents can be exchanged to create different color schemes. See the exterior and the floor plan. On the left, the patio has an arbor above it. The living room has a desk and a couch that converts to a bed. The large living room area has a wooden floor, and a small throw rug defines the dining space at the end adjacent to the kitchen. Between the living room and the kitchen is a center wall with a hearth fountain facing the living room and a shelving niche facing the kitchen. Cuoio's bed is actually more like a giant lounge, a soft S-shape stretched out long enough to lie on, all gentle curves and rounded corners. The bathroom has a sleek modern look. Outside, a pergola hangs over the patio.
He has a grapevine afghan and a cypress blanket.
"Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve."
-- Earl Grollman
"You think you're lost but you're not lost on your own. You're not alone. I will stand by you, I will help you through when you’ve done all you can do. If you can’t cope, I will dry your eyes. I will fight your fight, I will hold you tight and I won't let go."
-- Rascal Flatts
I wanted to tell this story because even at the high end, sometimes Mob life gets messy. This particular motif is usually shown from the side of "hero" who commits the vengeful murder. I thought it was time to show the other side of that -- how the people who get hurt the worst aren't the ones who had anything to do with the original offense, but the bystanders.
(These links are intense.)
Traumatic grief comes from a shattering loss, and it heals slowly or not at all or gets worse, instead of recovering at a normal (which is still not fast) rate. Traumatic loss and multiple bereavement both increase the risk of complicated grief, PTSD, or other complications. Here's a big archive of articles about all kinds of grief. Grieving people -- whether their grief is normal or traumatic -- need a safe and supportive environment. Few things are as precious as a friend who'll let you bawl on their shoulder until you run out of tears. There are tips on coping with grief and supporting a bereaved friend.
(So are these.)
I have a post about dealing with grief and a grief questionnaire. Emotional first aid may help too. You can also help an upset friend online.
(These links are touchy.)
Acute stress reaction is a normal response to an abnormal situation. Most people have difficulty functioning in the immediate aftermath of disaster, but they typically recover within a few hours or days. Having that strong reaction doesn't mean anything in wrong with their health, although it may feel that way. It is best treated with comfort and compassion. Extreme symptoms that disrupt functionality for more than a few days qualify as acute stress disorder. This is a "stuck problem" where the mind can't process an event properly and keeps re-experiencing it instead of filing it as a past memory. People may benefit from counseling for the stress and/or short-term medication to ease nausea, anxiety, or other complaints but not long-term medication. If the impairment lasts more than a month, it becomes post-traumatic stress disorder, a long-term condition. Counseling and/or medication may help, preferably from caregivers conversant with the particulars of grief.
The French Riviera (known in French as the Côte d'Azur) is the Mediterranean coastline on the southeast edge of France. It runs roughly from Cassis in the west to the Italian border in the east, where the Italian Riviera beings. It's popular for urban or rural retirement. Nice is a city just inside France, near the border with Italy. It is the largest city in the French Riviera. It offers many places to stay. Compare a map of the French Riviera with a map of the Italian Riviera.
Stress can slow or even shut down digestion. If you force yourself to eat normally at that time, it will not break down properly and you'll feel awful. But soups can't skip meals as safely as naries can. A solution is to eat small amounts of foods which are high in calories and nutrients but easy to digest. Here are some other ways to cope.
(These links are sad.)
Complicated grief is complex and can easily make people sick. There are ways to deal with grief at work. Look for small ways to take care of yourself, and understand the need for extra rest.
(These links are sad.)
When you help someone who is grieving, a lot of comes down to watching and supporting. Know the warning signs of complicated grief and how to work through it. Sometimes this helps, but other times the damage goes beyond what ordinary methods can treat.
Pomarola's mourning clothes include:
Outer layers: blue denim jacket, gray cashmere cardigan, pink/gray/black on white silk scarf
Foundation pieces: woven white cotton peasant blouse, black-and-white striped long-sleeve t-shirt, gray heather t-shirt, distressed denim shorts, black jersey pants, long black jersey skirt, pink jersey A-line dress
Accessories: white rolling suitcase with brown leather trim, small pink clutch purse, medium brown purse, large gray handbag, flat pink pumps, flat brown leather sandals, black Nike sneakers
Underwear: Not everything is shown in the picture, but the set includes at least 2 each of bras, panties, and socks in gray, white, and beige.
Bathrobe: fuzzy gray and white with bunnies on the pockets.
Guest toiletries set includes: slippers, body lotion, soap, shampoo, conditioner, bath gel, loofah, comb, sanitary bag (tampons and napkins), dental kit (toothbrush and toothpaste), vanity kit (nail file, cotton swabs, and cotton squares), shaving kit (razor and shaving cream), sewing kit (needle, threads, safey pins, fasteners, etc.). Eco-friendly products have a green tea scent.
Here are some ideas for what to include in a bathroom basket.
Notice that Cuoio has chosen foods that meet different needs for when someone feels delicate. Fettuccini Alfredo is a soft, rich, warm comfort food whose mild base can be dressed up with anything else. As a processed food, it's still relatively easy to digest even though it's filling. The use of refrigerated pasta (rather than dry pasta) dresses up the cream sauce. Italian Salad uses live foods in the form of mixed greens and fresh basil leaves, fermented olives, Parmesan-Reggiano cheese, and balsamic vinegar. Olive oil also has physical and mental health benefits. The Herb Melon Salad features more fresh live food in the form of cantaloupe, honeydew, mint, and basil. Sea salt not only replaces salt lost through tears or sweat, it also adds valuable minerals. Cuoio omits the sugar syrup because peak-season melons are intensely sweet already and have zero need for added sugar. Both the green salad and the melon salad are cool, wet, refreshing, and uplifting with a light character that doesn't weigh down the digestion. The melons also add bright, cheerful colors and a sweet touch to tempt a flagging appetite and give quick energy. Acqua e menta is just mint leaves muddled in sugar, a squeeze of lime, and then water to fill the glass.
Enjoy a video of Tuscany. Watching nature videos can relieve stress. It makes things like this a good choice for background sound when someone is upset.