"When you get lost in a really strange place, nothing is more comforting than finding your friend whom you trust and can show the way."
– Toba Beta
Feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to crisis. Genna's life has been chaotic and stressful for months. Here are some questions to ask yourself and things to do when you feel overwhelmed. Pips is helping by offering empathy and practical support. Watch for signs of overwhelm in friends, and know how to support someone who feels overwhelmed. The most important things are listening and taking the weight off. Pick any practical task and offer to do it.
This is the gift card with a beach picture. Using cards with different pictures helps distinguish who they belong to or what they're meant to buy, which is very helpful if you use these things by the handful.
A capsule wardrobe is a set of clothes -- usually smaller than a complete wardrobe -- that mix and match easily, look good on you, and wear well over time. This approach has pros and cons. The main advantages cluster around simplifying your life. A capsule wardrobe is an excellent choice when you need to rebuild a wardrobe for any reason, because it maximizes what you can do with a modest number of garments.
Whatever's Clean 13 consists of thirteen garments arranged on a spectrum. A key feature of this capsule is that you can't clash it. If there are patterns, they all go in the same row (outer tops, inner tops, bottoms) so they'll never be worn at the same time and thus don't have to match. This capsule is ideal for a week, or a weekend when you don't know what you or the weather will be doing. It's small but very flexible.
The 4x4 Capsule Wardrobe has a template of sixteen garments. A Core of Four consists of two tops (preferably an outer top and an inner top) and two bottoms. So you start with two of those, either two different neutrals that go well together or both the same neutral. The Mileage Four adds four tops, often with accent colors or patterns that combine the previous neutrals. The Expansion Four can be anything, usually a mix of tops and bottoms intended to fill any gaps. There are other ways to assemble a 4x4, and some of the names or definitions of the modules vary, but basic idea is a set of 16 garments most or all of which combine well. This capsule works great for 1-3 months. Its individual modules can also be mixed and matches to customize a wardrobe for your needs.
Building a wardrobe from scratch involves choosing a color scheme, various garments, and accessories. You need to clarify your preferences -- Pips and Genna talked about type of material, skirts vs. pants, etc. Finally, check the balance to make sure you have enough of your main colors and important garment types.
Here's a clever little math setup to calculate how many pieces of clothing you need. Add kids to your life, and the "number of outfits per day" will skyrocket, because your clothes get messy often. Pips addresses this issue by urging Genna to buy things in sets. If you have 2-4 garments that are the same style but different (compatible) colors, or the same color but different decorations, then you basically have several copies you can substitute freely -- without having exact duplicates. With accent tops, more variation is better; with bottoms or basic tops, some duplicates are fine. Genna's new improved wardrobe looks like a lot, until you realize that a substantial portion of it consists of spares to be put on after a spill.
Genna's yoga outfit is white with a Greek key trim in royal blue.
Hafsa Latheef gave Genna a capsule wardrobe in black, white, and blue. These 7 garments mix and match to make at least 20 different outfits:
Navy Keyhole Top and Twist Skirt
Crochet Trim White Caftan
Black Gold Coast Fringe Convertible Dress / Skirt
Seychelles Black-and-White Print 2-piece Romper
Navy-and-white Ikat Tie-Dye 2-piece Maxi Dress
Navy, Turquoise, and White Ikat Print Bag
Genna and Pips then add the following items from Vacay Style:
Azure blue convertible kimono
Black Gold Coast beaded top
Black keyhole-tiered 2-piece dress
Black and white Gold Coast fringe top
Black and white tile print sarong
Blue and turquoise mirage print St. Bart's caftan
Blue and turquoise mirage print St. Bart's sarong
Navy and white tile print Antigua 2-piece jumpsuit
Sky blue and white floral print Hanalei 2-piece romper
Sky blue and white soft stripe caftan
Turquoise halter top
White ruffle top
White Vacay Goddess 2-piece dress
Genna is resisting the temptation to grab everything that matches what she already has, but these are some other things that she really likes in case she spots them in a thrift shop:
Black and blue watercolor Maui 2-piece dress
Black and white block tie-dye Costa Rica 2-piece dress
Black and white tile print Cape Town 2- piece jumpsuit
Blue heather St. Martin racerback minidress
Blue and pink floral on black Maui convertible dress
Blue and pink floral on white Aruba 2-piece dress
Navy and white block print Avalon 2-piece jumpsuit
Navy and white bullseye tie-dye Captiva 2-piece dress
Navy and white bullseye tie-dye St. Martin convertible dress
Navy and white diamond print Nantucket 2-piece minidress
Navy and white raindrop Carmel 2-piece dress
Navy and white striped Martha's Vineyard convertible dress
Navy and white zigzag print Nantucket 2-piece maxidress
Sky blue and white striped Newport racerback beach dress
Turquoise and white scrunch tie-dye St. Bart's 2-piece dress
Since Genna loves natural fibers, Pips looks for a store selling those. This is what they'll add from Cottonseed:
Split Skirt Key Largo Turquoise
Top Nautical Shirt Turquoise
Tunic Button-up Siesta Key Blouse Turquoise
Shorts Suit Shorter Shorts and T-shirt Turquoise
Pantsuit Capri Pants and Button-up Top Blue
Baby French Terry Side Button Top Blue (and matching capri pants)
Sweater Angled Buttons Blue
Top Appliqué Fish Art Purple
Top Appliqué Flower Art White
Top Palm Leaf Print Gauze Black
Top Palm Leaf Print Gauze Blue
Top Square Neck Bicycle Black on White
Top Square Neck Butterfly Black on White
Top Square Neck Dandelion Black on White
Tunic Embroidered Seahorse V-neck Chambray Blue
Tunic Embroidered Seahorse V-neck Royal Blue
Tunic Embroidered Seahorse V-neck White
They will add from elsewhere:
Magellan's Packable Hooded Crinkle Rain Jacket Royal Blue
Navy fitted jacket (after finding Genna's current size)
Pips finds footwear from Magellan's:
Multi-Texture Leather Sandals Tan
Neoprene Comfort Water Shoe Gray
Stretch Shoe Shades of Denim
Shoes Stretch Slingbacks Black
Genna's travel outfit includes a black-and-white striped top, black shorts, and sand-colored sneakers.
Her go-bag contains a Core Wardrobe with a denim shirt, a white T-shirt, a black T-shirt, a white tank top, a black tank top, a white cardigan, white shorts, khaki capris, and blue jeans. If you want to diversify it, that's easy to do with accent clusters.
Bras, panties, and socks often come in sets.
Pips finds short-sleeved T-shirts in white, beige, black, and navy; plus long-sleeved T-shirts in white, beige, black, and navy. There are biking shorts in black, white, blue, and beige; plus leggings in beige, black, white, and navy.
The crinkle tie cardigans can be worn alone or over an undershirt, and come in 9 colors. Genna chooses the ones that match her current wardrobe: black, white, navy, purple, and turquoise. Crinkle skirts are easy to wash and wear. Genna used to have a whole collection in many colors and prints. Now she's starting over with black, white, and rainbow. These crinkle items will all mix and match well with the other cotton things she plans to get from Cottonseed.
A katheeb is an all-purpose servant that some Maldivian resorts provide, often translated as "butler," although more versatile than than one role. Some of the resort islands are going out of business as fewer people want that experience and more want a wider look the Maldives. At the same time, many immigrants need someone to help them get around their new home. So some of the katheebs are switching to support the immigrants. They also recognized Pips as one of their own kind, despite his different background.