39. What are the top three ways to express your love in friendships and in relationships? (Here’s the Love Languages Quiz.)
Quality Time and Acts of Service are my top ones. Those are the isness of love for me -- the things we do together, or for each other. Then Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch are tied for third place. I'm not typically focused on Gifts as an expression of love.
Thinking about recent community interactions, though, I seem to respond more to gifts as a show of friendship, because I've been very touched by some of our current friends bringing us things. We've got a tribe sense starting to develop, which is something I value very much, and that constant passing around of resources is part of that. Gifts in motion, rather than the romantic tendency to cover a girl in jewelry or whatever. We've probably passed the salad bowl and dressing jar back and forth a dozen times by now, and everyone's fallen in love with the Elder Scrolls cookbook of which our group has at least 3 copies. :D I suppose I should add that my partner Doug made some extremely well-chosen gifts early on that riveted my attention, because they proved he was listening in ways that other people generally don't. "Can I buy you a Snapple?" <3