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Content notes for "An Ember of the Old Emotions"

These are the content notes for "An Ember of the Old Emotions."

"Reunions are always fraught with awkward tensions the necessity to account for oneself; the attempt to find, through memories, an ember of the old emotions."
-- Anita Shreve

See maps of Missouri in the United States, a closeup of the state, a population map, and the counties.

Distance between Ava, MO, USA and Ironton, MO, USA (US)
Start Point: Ava, MO 65608, USA
End Point: Ironton, MO 63650, USA
Driving Distance: 158 mi , Duration: 2 hours 57 mins, Route: MO-32 E
Different Units: 254.87 km, 158.37 mi, 137.62 nmi
Straight line or air distance: 193.65 km, 120.33 miles, 104.49 nautical miles.

Endurance Riding
One-day international competitions are 40–160 km. Multi-day competitions are longer but have daily distance limits. Those that are FEI recognized and are broken into the following categories:
• CEI * (one star): minimum average distance each day is 80–119 km (50–74 mi)
• CEI **: 120–139 km (75–86 mi) in one day or 70–89 km (43–55 mi) per day over two days
• CEI ***: 140–160 km (87–99 mi) in one day, or 90–100 km (56–62 mi) per day over two days, or 70–80 km (43–50 mi) per day over three days or more.
• CEI ****: Senior Championships of a minimum of 160 km (99 mi) in one day, Young Horse. Championships for 7 year olds – maximum distance 130 km (81 mi), Junior and Young Rider Championships of a minimum of 120 km (75 mi), maximum of 130 km (81 mi) in one day

Competitive Trail Riding
Competitive trail riding (CTR) is an equestrian sport where riders cover a marked trail for a distance that is usually between 15 and 40 miles per day. Some rides are only one day long, others may run as long as three days.

Most hikers hike 8 - 10 miles each day at the beginning of their hike, then slowly work up to 12 - 16 miles per day. Most hikers will eventually have a few 20 - 25 mile days.

An average (15 hands tall) horse can be comfortable in a 10' x 12' or even a 10' x 10' stall. An inside width of 6' (a trailer quoted as having a 6' width may vary by a few inches) with a height of 7' (square sided roof rather than rounded), and a total stall length of 10', will fit a horse from about 14 hands up to about 16 hands.

The small Hunting Tent measures 8' x 10' with 4' straight walls and 8' peak.
This would fit one centaur comfortably or two snugly. It also works for one centaur and one or two humans working together.

A door hanger shows Occupied or Vacant.

Staying calm in a crisis is a vital skill, especially for police like Ansel. Understand how to calm yourself or help someone else calm down. Remember that you cannot force anyone to calm down, but you can remove stressors and talk them through some coping steps.

Due to traumatic stress and other reasons, Turq has trouble with decision-making and consent, and Sorley now faces similar challenges. There is a spectrum of consent which ranges from healthy to impaired to completely unable. In this case, Sorley finds it hard to imagine his family's perspective accurately or work through the process of reunion. However, he misses his family and desperately wishes to reconnect with them. Ansel is using a combination of his professional training and his experience with Turq to provide the best support he can. Fortunately Sorley's fathers have good background training. There are basic and detailed instructions for assisted decision-making. This too exists on a spectrum from autonomy through support to dependence. When done correctly, formal or informal support helps people make better decisions. In Turq's case, this coaching and assistance is gradually getting him back to where he can do more for himself instead of just floundering.

Foster care necessarily disrupts attachments that formed prior to separation. This often, though not always, causes attachment issues. What is often described as an attachment disorder is more precisely connection disruption. This may be the abrupt severance of positive connections (as in separating Sorley from his foster fathers) or lack of connection because people have been unavailable or neglectful (which also happened to Sorley in his birth family). Such disruptions of contact cause many problems, particularly in foster care. The attendant loss and grief can make recovery difficult. Sorley's history of neglect, separation, and mad science torture makes it harder for him to connect with anyone now. His positive family ties should make it possible to reconnect, because at least he remembers that such things exist and are desirable. Consider a spectrum from secure attachment through insecure but organized forms of attachment, disorganized attachment, secure base distortions, disordered attachment, and finally non-attachment disorders at the far end. Sorley's attachment is damaged but still there. There are tips for parents of foster or adopted children about healing disrupted attachment and other types of trauma.

In L-America, thousands of children go missing from foster care. Basically it creates a pipeline into human trafficking.

Coping skills include breathing exercises. This video demonstrates breathing for calm. Learn how to develop coping strategies, think ahead, and always have an exit plan.

This page covers practical steps to take when "Everything is awful and I'm not okay."

Banking a fire lets it burn slowly overnight, so it can be rekindled in the morning.
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