Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
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Notes for "What Seems Like Surrender"

Here are the notes for "What Seems Like Surrender." Warnings for the original poem apply significantly to the notes as well. These are NSFW in most contexts.

"Sometimes what seems like surrender isn't surrender at all. It's about what's going on in our hearts. About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater."
-- Nicholas Evans

This is the infirmary entrance at the Lincoln penitentiary.

Here is one of the private exam / treatment rooms showing the view from the door, the desk, and the exam table. The infirmary has accessible bathing facilities which include a sink, toilet, assorted showerheads and hoses, tiled bench, fans, and heat lamps all inside a secure roomlet.

A bruised kidney can be a minor or serious injury. It typically takes one to two weeks to heal, sometimes longer for worse damage. Bed rest during the early stages is advisable. As healing progresses, light activity may be reintroduced. Gentle stretches for lower back pain are particularly helpful. Seated yoga is good for back care also, and here are some seated back stretches. Don't overdo it. Here are some activities sorted by intensity.

Walking has many benefits. This handout offers a visual display of benefits. Learn how to start a walking plan. Walk with a Doc is one program that encourages healthy exercise. Here is a toolkit to promote walking in the community.

BDSM spans different branches including bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, and sadism & masochism. It takes some time to identify and communicate what you like. It can be sexual or nonsexual. Learn about bottom skills and top skills. Read some kinky books.

Consent and communication are essential to enjoying kink. Negotiation and trust underlie a safe and pleasurable experience. This can pose challenges for people with trust issues, but it's actually a great environment for learning about trust. Learn about the principles of negotiation and how to do it. This page offers a video and worksheet for negotiating a BDSM scene. Here are some more tools and techniques.

Dual relationships are complicated, but sometimes the best or only choice. This is true for Shiv, because his past experience involved many medics who didn't even treat him as a person. He needs a more balanced, personal connection or he'll scram. This does not negate the occasional pitfalls of dual relationships, it just means those are something that Shiv and his caregivers have to learn how to handle so he can actually get some care. Dr. Bloch judges that the risk of leaving a kinky supervillain to his own devices greatly exceeds the risk of attempting a dual relationship.

Plausible deniability refers to things which have multiple purposes, one overt and one covert. In BDSM, this often refers to "pervertables" -- ordinary items that can be put to kinky uses. In this case, it simply means that Dr. Bloch offers to use legitimate medical practices for the additional purpose of meeting Shiv's needs for sharp touch in a safer way than Shiv could currently manage on his own.
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