Foster teens who age out of care without a family have elevated risks. Many of them want to have a baby to create a family, but they often have poor parenting skills due to shabby examples growing up. This is a recipe for disaster, but local-America does little to prevent it.
In Terramagne-America, Homemade Families is a program for people 18-27 who recently aged out of foster care, plan to start a family so they will have one, and want to do it right rather than mess it up like their own childhood. In pursuit of this goal, sexually active students are expected to use birth control during the course, but there are no penalties if they do not. Each class consists of a handful of students and a teacher, with the hope that classmates will form a tight-knit unit or at least some lasting friendships. Students who have not completed a patchwork test of life skills within the last year will do so during the first session. Class meets at least once a week, sometimes more for special projects. Each month, students complete a project for community service learning that relates to a current class topic. Similar programs exist for new adults who came out of a disadvantaged background other than foster care.
See more resources for filling gaps in "The Day We Start to Move Forward."
Topics from Homemade Families include:
* Emotional Intelligence
* Healthy Diet
* Communication Skills
* Conflict Resolution
* Basic Technology
* Practical Math
* Personal Finance
* The Social Contract
* Citizen Law
* Job Skills
* Hobbies and Recreation
* Executive Skills
* Life Planning
* Expanding Your Life Skills
* Traumatic Stress and Its Effects
* Risk and Resilience
* Addressing Disadvantage and Adversity
* Attachment and Abandonment
* Child Abuse/Neglect
* Sexual Assault
* Domestic Violence
* Substance Abuse
* Communal and Generational Trauma
* Cyclic Problems
* Healing Yourself
* Supporting Other Survivors
Adolescence and Adulthood
* Adolescent Development and Learning
* Troubled Youth
* Adult Development and Learning
* Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma
* What It Means to Be a Grownup
* Adulting for Beginners
* Cultivating Maturity Over Time
* Human Behavior in Context
Negative Coping Skills
* Crisis-to-Crisis Lifestyle
* Thought Distortions
* Suicidal Thoughts
* Eating Disorders
* How to Break Bad Habits
Positive Coping Skills
* Mindfulness and Meditation
* Emotional Regulation
* Logical Thought
* Positive Self-Talk
* Healthy Comfort Food
* Stress Reduction
* Rest and Relaxation
* Support Network
* Healthy Touch
* Spirituality or Philosophy
* Expanding Your Coping Skills
* Make a Big Box of Cope
What Safety Is Like
* Safety Tracker
* How to Create Safety
What Normal Is Like
* Exploration of Human Diversity
* Emotional Balance
* Types of Families
* Living with a Host Family (for one month)
* Your Ideal of What Normal Means for You
Identities, Orientations, and Connections
* Who You Are
* Who You Want
* Courtship Processes (with practice dates)
* Platonic Relationships
* Sexual/Romantic Health and Enjoyment
* Finding and Keeping a Partner
* Trust and Betrayal
* Foster Prom
Agency and Consent
* Psychological Agency
* Authority and Responsibility
* Sexual and Nonsexual Boundaries
* Interpersonal Communication
* Hearing No in Yes
* Mapping Your Boundaries
Compassionate Boundaries offers a Compassionate Preference Exploration Flow Chart including a key with an example flow chart This body mapcomes with example body charts. The Compassionate Wishlist also has an example list.
Starting a Family
* Your Body
* Pregnancy Prevention, Conception, and Health
* Child Development and Health
* Basic Child Care
* Parenting Skills
* Positive Discipline
* Revisiting Your Childhood
* Trauma-Informed Care
* Intellectual Disabilities and Mental Health
* Physical Disabilities and Health
* Gifted Individuals
* Benefits and Techniques for Inclusivity
Healthy Family Dynamics
* Your Foster History
* Planning for the Future
* Making a House a Home
* Creating Keepsakes
* Family Rules
* Family Traditions
* Family Vacations
* Birthdays, Holidays, and Special Occasions
* Family and Community
* Intentional Neighboring
Life skills are the basic techniques needed for everyday tasks such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping. This assessment tool measures how well children or teens are progressing toward independent living. This assessment focuses on people with disabilities or other challenges. Browse a manual of basic life skills. T-America encourages teens and new adults to measure their fluency in life skills, so they can fill any gaps before those cause serious trouble. You can pretty much walk into any community center or community clinic there, and they'll either have someone who does that stuff or they can tell you where to go for it. There are many more ways to improve your life.
See more in "Just Over the Horizon."
Here's an overview of the mentioned skill levels:
A Money Management/Consumer Awareness
B Food Management
C Personal Appearance and Hygiene
H Educational Planning
I Job Seeking Skills
J Job Maintenance Skills
K Emergency and Safety Skills
L Knowledge of Community Resources
M Interpersonal Skills
N Legal Skills
O Pregnancy Prevention/Parenting and Child Care
Arlee has Exceptional in Money Management, Food Management, Personal Appearance, Housing, Educational Planning, Job Seeking Skills, Job Maintenance Skills, Community Resources, Interpersonal Skills; Advanced in Health, Transportation, Safety Skills; Intermediate in Housekeeping, Legal Issues; Incomplete in Pregnancy.
Jeric has Exceptional in Transportation, Educational Planning, Job Seeking Skills; Advanced in Money Management, Food Management, Health, Housing, Safety Skills; Intermediate in Personal Appearance, Housekeeping, Job Maintenance Skills, Community Resources, Interpersonal Skills; Basic in Legal Issues; Incomplete in Pregnancy.
Fenna has Exceptional in Money Management, Food Management, Personal Appearance, Health, Housekeeping, Housing, Educational Planning, Safety Skills, Interpersonal Skills; Intermediate in Transportation, Job Seeking Skills, Job Maintenance Skills, Community Resources; Basic in Legal Issues, Pregnancy.
Tight clothes can lower male fertility. Testicles hang outside the body for a reason.
There are both male and female condoms.
A condom case such as this two-pack model protects prophylatics. Alternatively it can store one condom and a packet of lube. Guys generally like this classy black style, but there are fancier ones for girls. Just In Case is a leading brand in Terramagne-America, often distributed in sex-ed classes.
Birth control is an essential aspect of family planning. However, many people persist in believing that women who want birth control are sluts, even including the morning-after backup options. Obviously, denying birth control harms women, and in a medical context, denying necessary care or insulting patients is malpractice. Planned Parenthood is a good place to learn about birth control.
This busk stencil identifies appropriate places for public performance. T-American cities often use busk stops to balance the needs of traffic flow, entertainment, making a living, and freedom of expression.
Healthy snacks are important, especially for restoring energy after mental effort. Enjoy options like mixed cherry tomatoes, basil hummus with pita chips, and no-bake chewy granola bars.
People make graffiti for many reasons, chief among them expression against oppression. The more unheard people feel, the more likely they are to write on walls. T-America handles this with legal graffiti walls and chalkboard walls as public art and expression.
Self-bullying can be difficult to stop doing. Take a stand against it and help friends who do it.
Make a foam organizer for tools or supplies.
Tiny blank books are fun to make and use.
Positive affirmations work great for overwriting bad tape in your head. Some popular themes include success and relationships.
Learn how to make a no-sew fleece octopus.
Preparing for prom includes choosing a dress with attention to color, shape, and other factors. Most men rent a tuxedo. So do some women. There are men (or people who typically present as masculine) who wear dresses. In local-America, administrators often set gender-stereotyped rules. T-America is much more sensible and flexible. Compare Arlee's dress and Oakley's dress.
Sexual coercion (and other types) applies even if someone is bullied into saying yes to something they don't really want. People may express "no" in many ways. However, sexual abuse tends to cause serious boundary issues. Sometimes they agree to things they don't want, other times they want things that are rather unhealthy. This can make it extremely difficult for even an ethical and alert partner to discern their actual wishes or what is a good idea to do.
Emotional body language can be negative, closed, defensive, uncomfortable, angry, sad, and so on. Some gestures really mean trouble. Any of these are signals to slow down or stop. Flirtatious body language looks different. It invites progress.
Chewable toys provide oral sensation and a variety of benefits. These chewable pencil toppers are safe and convenient.
In L-America, electronic baby dolls may be normal or drug-affected. The same company makes non-electronic premature and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome babies. In T-America, all of these and other conditions are available in gizmotronic versions with lots of engaging features to hold student interest.
Adverse Childhood Events can have a serious negative impact on adult outcomes. However, there are ways to recover. Notice that T-America relies heavily on the "rally community healing" step to break the cycle of family dysfunction as a way of repairing both individual and collective health. This is among the most effective methods for solving any problem with its roots in a troubled relationship or family, and it also does damage control for environmental adversities such as a natural disaster.
Lifebooks and welcome books are some types of memory books that help foster children organize their experiences. Here is one template for a lifebook. This is Oakley's welcome book. Here is Cleome's welcome book. This is Fenna's memory book. Here is Arlee's memory book.