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Emotional Intimacy Question: Worst Memory
Folks have mentioned an interest in questions and conversations that make them think. So I've decided to offer more of those. I'm starting with this list.

18. What is your most terrible memory?

Since a lot of folks may not want to answer that one, I'll broaden it a bit.  You can use any difficult memory that you're comfortable sharing, or talk about how you handle hard memories in general.  It's also okay if you want to post your contribution on your own journal where you control the settings.

One of my quirks is that, thanks to farmemory, my really  worst memories are from other lives.  So for instance, I collect bedding because I can, and just in case I ever have to put up a bunch of friends turned refugees.  My litany for bad days goes, "No one is currently trying to assassinate me.  I am not personally responsible for saving the world in the next 24 hours.  If this building/vehicle catches fire, there is an entire atmosphere of breathable air into which we can flee."  This really puts a flat tire in perspective.

Because those memories influence how I handle problems, it's a useful thing to know about me.  Even if you don't believe in farmemory, you can still observe the effects.

Oh, and for those of you who, like me, find "worst pain imaginable" to be ludicrously irrelevant, try using this pain scale which instead describes the impact of the pain on what you can do as well as comparing it to common benchmark causes.

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elenbarathi From: elenbarathi Date: June 21st, 2018 06:10 am (UTC) (Link)
I like Allie Brosh's Better Pain Scale.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 21st, 2018 09:52 am (UTC) (Link)

*laugh*

I have seen that many times, but I'm happy to learn where it came from.
cat_sanctuary From: cat_sanctuary Date: June 21st, 2018 05:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
Interesting link, that pain scale. I think #6 is as far as I've ever gone.

Though according to recent research, what I grew up calling sinus headaches may *be* neurologically related to migraines--weak form of the gene, or some such thing. (Commented about this somewhere, was invited to write more about it, haven't dared to tackle the topic yet because it's like being a lifelong teetotaller telling alcoholics I have the gene. If you have the gene but clearly never had the disease, WHO ARE YOU TRYING TO KID?)

Anyway, thank you for sharing...I think a lot of "most terrible memories" can be summarized generally as The Day Someone Died. Mine's in that category.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 21st, 2018 09:09 pm (UTC) (Link)

Well ...

>> Though according to recent research, what I grew up calling sinus headaches may *be* neurologically related to migraines--weak form of the gene, or some such thing. (Commented about this somewhere, was invited to write more about it, haven't dared to tackle the topic yet because it's like being a lifelong teetotaller telling alcoholics I have the gene. If you have the gene but clearly never had the disease, WHO ARE YOU TRYING TO KID?) <<

What about all the other people in the same situation whose problems aren't being taken seriously? Don't they deserve to have the issue studied, and have support for it? Plus, when you have two known variations of the same thing, you can compare and contrast. Which solutions work for both? Which only work for one? Sometimes you can fix the lesser version and then figure out how to improve that for the worse version, whereas trying to tackle migraines directly has resulted in only so-so treatments.
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