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Poetry Fishbowl Report for July 5, 2016
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ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: August 1st, 2016 06:22 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Nonbinary person waves "hi"

>>A little more reflection provided some useful insight. "Unhealthy" is actually applicable to my relationship with my gender identity, but not the way gender bigots would use it. What's unhealthy is not that I have a gender identity that does not align with my birth or present morphology, but that I am constantly balancing the internal cost of suppressing it against the external cost of expressing it.<<

Exactly. You can be healthy or not in the state of your gender identity; and the choices you make may be healthy or not; and only some of that is your decision. Many people wind up unhealthy because they are tormented.

>> And another sad example of gender asymmetry. "Tomboy" is an acceptable epithet for girls, and there is no non-pejorative equivalent for boys who exhibit non-masculine forms of expression. And it gets worse from there.<<

Sadly so, although the acceptability of "tomboy" is variable.

>>As for percentages, I'm inclined to only count people who assert a nonbinary gender identity. A lot of the range between your 1% and 10% cohorts belongs to people who say, "I'm a (man/woman) who ..." when asked about their non-normative behavior. Whether those people would assert a nonbinary gender identity were it less hazardous is an interesting and relevant question, but I'm not inclined to count them now.<<

>>Most of the time, I favor the 1% marker, although the 10% is useful for some contexts (i.e. how far can you go from the core cluster before you start having problems?).

Keep on wagging! Even though some of them, like the "masculinity" one, are awfully fragile despite the constant cultural reinforcement.<<

Yeah, it's a house of cards. :/
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