Warning: Although generally sweet, this poem contains references to prejudiced and unsupportive behavior by some people around Danso and Noah. Think before you click.
"The Frequency of Love"
Danso and Noah learned
to touch each other by slow degrees.
After Danso's time on the street
and challenges meshing his new family,
after Noah's awful breakup with his girlfriend
because of her miscarriage, both boys
needed something patient and gentle.
They started by just placing a hand
on each other's shoulders while walking
down the sidewalk, like team players
leaving a basketball court.
It was friendly and supportive,
and it felt good without being
too intimate too soon.
On days when Danso felt overwhelmed
by trying to fit himself back into teen life
like squeezing into a too-small sweater, or
by trying to stretch into adulthood a bit too soon
so that the sleeves flopped over his hands,
they would sit on the couch together
with Danso's head in Noah's lap.
That support helped him cope.
On days when Noah needed to cry
over only almost being a father,
or people at school picking on him
for "not being able to make up his mind,"
Danso would sit down, put the pillow
in his lap, and pat it in invitation
so that he could return the favor.
When they wanted to talk, then
they would curl up on the bed together,
each one's head resting on the other's knee,
their lips no more than a whisper apart.
They left the bedroom door ajar
by silent, mutual consent, not yet
ready for the possibilities which
closing that door would open.
Danso and Noah learned
that a boyfriend made a good pillow,
and that a heartbeat was like a radio signal,
each one with its own resonance.
If they listened, they could hear the frequency of love.
* * *
“My heartbeat is a pulse, and it pumps out sonic vibrations that resonate with her mind as she lays her head on my chest. Listen silently and you can hear the frequency of love.”
― Jarod Kintz, This Book is Not FOR SALE
Taking it slow helps to develop healthy relationships, whether romantic or platonic. There are various definitions and advantages for taking it slow. Here are some tips on slow romance.
Gay teens like Danso face particular challenges in dating.
Bisexual teens like Noah face even worse challenges than gay peers and have less support. Know how to stand up for QUILTBAG youth.
Cuddling promotes closeness and other benefits. Here are some pointers on cuddling. The best reference is The Cuddle Sutra. The walking shoulder hold is called "Team Players." One lying in the other's lap on the couch is "Surf & Snuggle." Lying head-to-knee on the bed is "68 1/2."