Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
Elizabeth Barrette
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So Jughead is asexual.  That's cool. 

I also discovered a couple of other terms.  

Skoliosexual refers to an attraction toward nonbinary people.  Hey, that's me!  It is an accurate but incomplete description of my sexuality, adjacent to redheads.  There are very few things that will really grab my attention on a purely observational level, without knowing the person, but those are them.  (This is also what I got dissed for at the trans party.  Making fun of skoliosexual people as "tranny-chasers" is not cool, folks.)  So it's nice to have a word for that.

Lithosexual refers to having romantic feelings but wanting them not to be reciprocated.  I had to laugh.  This is so not new. This is half the Courtly Love custom of romance (the other half being star-crossed lovers) because lots of people practiced it but would have been horrified  if their distant adulation was actually returned.  It was enormously popular some centuries ago.  If this is you, look into historic literature and you'll find it.
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  • 6 comments
solarbird

solarbird

February 13 2016, 02:28:45 UTC 5 years ago

Jughead is asexual.
And in other news, water is wet. But it's nice they used the term. ^_^
ysabetwordsmith

Yes...

ysabetwordsmith

February 13 2016, 02:29:50 UTC 5 years ago

I think it matters that they used the term, because that helps other people see themselves more clearly. It's good to have words for things.
solarbird

Re: Yes...

solarbird

February 13 2016, 03:53:32 UTC 5 years ago

Yeah, that was kind of my point - they didn't even have to change the character even a little, he already was. They just had to drop in the name.
ng_moonmoth

ng_moonmoth

February 13 2016, 06:07:42 UTC 5 years ago

>> Skoliosexual refers to an attraction toward nonbinary people. Hey, that's me! It is an accurate but incomplete description of my sexuality [...] (This is also what I got dissed for at the trans party. Making fun of skoliosexual people as "tranny-chasers" is not cool, folks.) <<

Yeah, one's anger at being sexually objectified by some cisgender folks because of one's gender identity (way too common, and the avalanche of bad porn really doesn't help!) does not entitle anyone to vent it at someone without checking to make sure the target is, in fact, such a person. My sympathies for being the undeserved target of their wrath.

I bet you didn't read as genderqueer (the dread "not t****y enough") to the crowd, and that got you jumped on. Which brings to mind the presentation thread we had in the last Fishbowl...

Skoliosexuality is a recurrent topic of discussion in many of the gender-variant spaces I often visit. General consensus is that being skoliosexual is OK for nonbinary types who aren't comfortable with a partner who hasn't had to confront the issues surrounding nonbinary identity (their own, or others) and may (intentionally or not) attempt to impose their binary view. But it's problematic for binary folks, because their gender identity (straight or gay) is viewed as being at odds with accepting another person's nonbinary identity, let alone using it as a sexual filter. Objectification, fetishization, and seriously unbalanced power dynamics are just a short step or two from there.
patina

patina

February 19 2016, 17:31:45 UTC 5 years ago

Quoiromantic is one of my favorite terms. Not being entirely sure what counts as "romantic" vs "platonic" is something I can fully relate to.
ysabetwordsmith

Yes...

ysabetwordsmith

February 19 2016, 19:15:35 UTC 5 years ago

Romantic is one of those words that is difficult to describe without referring back to itself. The best I've come up with is a particular flavor of sweetness in a relationship. It's made of things that mostly also happen in platonic relationships, but they don't feel the same way with romance. And it's not the same as tractive -- desiring a long-term relationship -- because one can make romantic gestures to strangers like handing out roses to all the ladies at a dance.