Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
Elizabeth Barrette
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Charging for Emotional Labor


Here's an interesting post about emotional labor, sex work, money, and feminism.

Emotional labor is real work.  It takes time and effort.  If you do it, you should be getting something for it: enjoyment, favors, cash, whatever floats your boat.  Marriages generally run more on barter than cash, although the financial benefits are common too.  Sex work is more pay-as-you-play ... but yes, really,  men absolutely do turn to sex workers for attention, comfort, reassurance, fake love, emotional support, etc. in addition to orgasms.  Some guys just want to get off, but a lot of guys want to get off while talking about how their wife/girlfriend/woman-who-doesn't-know-they-exist doesn't appreciate them.
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technoshaman

technoshaman

November 27 2015, 07:11:01 UTC 5 years ago

We had it drilled into our heads early, you don't charge for the magic, but you *do* charge for your time.
cissa

cissa

December 10 2015, 01:55:37 UTC 5 years ago

YES.

At this point, my husband and I have more-or-less settled on an exchange where I do most to all of the remembering/organizing/scheduling, and he does the lion's share of the implementation in many areas. He's awful at the keeping track- but that's real work, too, and now it's being counted as such rather than as "nagging".