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A Way to Reduce Violence
Talk to the lonely people.  

Not like it?  Dude, this has been my primary mode  of socialization since I could walk.  The first thing I do in any group event is look for the people on the fringes.  They're usually my best matches and more interesting than the ones in the middle.  It even worked in Mexico and Russia when we didn't necessarily have more than a partial language overlap.

Anyhow, connection helps keep people alive.  It reduces many types of violence.  It also reduces deaths from suicide and loneliness.  Loneliness is about as deadly as smoking.  Also worth mentioning is that it's not purely physical: people can be surrounded by others, and still feel lonely for lack of intimacy.  

A cool thing here is that intimate relationships don't have to be physical.  Sure it's nice if you have plenty of local-to-you friends who can cuddle with you or help if your car won't start.  But if your area doesn't have many people like you, then you can find friends online instead, which meets the need for connection.  Outside of my family, I don't have more than friendly acquaintainces nearby -- but online I have some very fine 'ohana indeed.

The world is a violent mess right now.  Somebody should do something about that.

Be Somebody.

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From: rhodielady_47 Date: October 10th, 2015 01:31 am (UTC) (Link)
You and I are totally on the same page here.
Being from the South, I almost always talk to the people I'm standing in line with wherever that line may be.
Most people seem to be delighted to talk to someone for a few minutes.
Strangely enough, men and teenagers who you'd think wouldn't talk, often yak my ears off!
The folks most likely to not want to talk to me or sometimes not want to even make eye-contact with me: Beautiful women.
{Judging by how they act, you get the strong impression that they think ugliness is a sin and is as contageous as lice.)
:^\
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: October 10th, 2015 01:53 am (UTC) (Link)

Thoughts

>> You and I are totally on the same page here. <<

:D

>>Being from the South, I almost always talk to the people I'm standing in line with wherever that line may be.
Most people seem to be delighted to talk to someone for a few minutes.
Strangely enough, men and teenagers who you'd think wouldn't talk, often yak my ears off! <<

Cool.

>> The folks most likely to not want to talk to me or sometimes not want to even make eye-contact with me: Beautiful women.
{Judging by how they act, you get the strong impression that they think ugliness is a sin and is as contageous as lice.)
:^\ <<

Well, some people are only pretty on the outside. 0_o
siege From: siege Date: October 10th, 2015 09:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
Unless you're dealing with actual psychopaths, the most contagious thing about a person is the emotion on their face. I guess some women don't want smile lines. ;)
From: rhodielady_47 Date: October 11th, 2015 04:26 am (UTC) (Link)
I have to agree with you--there are a lot of women who do NOT have a sense of humor and--when it's just a group of women without any men--they actually look irritated when another woman cracks a joke. They are quick enough to smile and laugh if a man tells a joke though!
It's one of the main reasons why I've always been more comfortable around men. I also prefer being around groups of men and women rather than groups of only women.
:^}

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