busyI agree with these. I will add that telephone technology has evolved in ways that make me hate them more, not less. They are more pervasive and intrusive now. They demand attention in being charged. The sound quality has become so horrendous that I can barely make out what anyone is saying, and in the case of any speakerphone function actually hurts my ears. And they're ruining the restaurant experience, which creates fallout that I have to deal with even though I know better than to play with my fucking phone at the table.
So if you like me and wish to communicate with me, I am happy to do that via email or facetime. I am never happy on the phone and use it only as an absolute last resort. The chance of accurate communication is only so-so and the chance of pleasurable communication approaches zero and costs me spoons to fake it.
Re: So totally YES!!
August 19 2015, 08:24:53 UTC 5 years ago
Agreed.
>> One fellow emails me to "chat" and every chat is the same: he asks what's new and has nothing else to say. I'm supposed to entertain him immediately, for hours, for free. If I idle for any reason, he pokes and tele-whimpers that I'm not paying enough attention to him.<<
I'd say "You're right, I'm not," and hang up. I can barely tolerate calls for purely practical purposes, and tend to prod people to get to the point quickly. *ponder* But then I have minimal patience for pointless blather in person either. I can talk for hours about space exploration or history or gardening, but most people are just ... moving air molecules around. Gah.
>>I can never even say 'hi' to some of my neighbors. They're on the phone as they're exiting their apartment, or busy texting/reading/poking at their phone. They're beyond "situationally unaware". These are the folks who get hit by cars and trains.<<
See, this is why I don't go into pet stores when I'm hungry. Everything looks like prey. I see people like that and they're just ... T-rex bait. But perhaps cars and trains will help chlorinate the gene pool a bit.
Re: So totally YES!!
August 19 2015, 09:28:46 UTC 5 years ago
For a good dose of schadenfreude (a wonderful word popularized by the puppet show Avenue Q), several folks were instant Darwin Award winners by dying while taking selfies. Sadly, innocent folks nearby tend to get hurt too.
A ring of hell is reserved for folks too busy on their cellphone while at the checkout/cashier. It's most common at supermarkets since the lines are always agonizing, particularly when there's any delay for an item that won't scan, or the dreaded "price lookup". But that only exacerbates the problem as they give insufficient attention to their own checkout.
Even more depressing to me is the thought that the person at the other end is doing the same. Who are these people who MUST be on the phone all day?
I was born to the TV generation and accused of short attention span. But that's nothing compared to today's kids, to whom composing a complete SENTENCE is a chore! Texting/tweeting/twitter is rewarding the attention deficient.
I have a filing cabinet of long letters to & from friends.
I was inspired by Lewis Carroll, who wrote and logged THOUSANDS of letters.
I think he said that "man is a letter writing animal" or something to that sort.
But I'm preaching to the choir.