Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
Elizabeth Barrette
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Walking Strong

Here's an interesting discussion about public space and who moves aside for whom.  Typically the lesser-ranked person moves aside.  So men expect women to move aside.

I have various modes for moving through public space ... 

I can be inconspicuous and move through the spaces of a crowd.  People don't see me if I don't want them to, but it means I have to be the one avoiding the collisions.

I can be fast and make  spaces in a crowd.  One way to do that is with projecting energy forward, another is with physics by forming my hands into a wedge ahead of me, and a third is with touching sensitive points to make people move.  The social one is done with eye contact, body language, and energy: a very formidable claiming of space.  If you're dominant enough then people will move, but if you don't look like the type, it draws attention.  People get out of my way when I do it, because my personality overshadows the packaging.  It is generally not justified to do this unless one has a compelling reason to get somewhere in a hurry.

And then there's warrior mode.  When I was in college, I thought about all the dangerous things they tell girls not to do, discarded most of them as irrelevant (frex, I had no interest in parties), but decided that walking alone at night was too useful to give up.  So when I needed to travel at night, I simply shifted into warm-zone alertness where there's no active threat but one could materialize at any moment.  I moved like a predator and I belted out lyrics like "Wind's Four Quarters" and "Freedom of the Snow."

Strapping young men routinely crossed the street to get away from me.

If you want space, you have to claim it.  If you claim it, you have to be willing and able to deal with people who challenge your claim, because that's always a possibility.  The more solid your stance, the less likely that is.  Very few people ever hassled me because of the way I was walking; bared teeth and a few cutting words cleared that up quickly enough.  Just be sure you think ahead about how to handle things.
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I've never had qualms about walking outside at night, even going on nightly constitutionals. Part of that is because I was never afraid of the dark; when I was a kid, I would swim through the black shadows of night like a shark and sneak up on other children. And part of it is the fact I'm 5'11'' and, thus, physically intimidating.

On a tangentially related note, you might like this: http://www.buzzfeed.com/skarlan/these-portraits-of-badass-young-female-athletes-are-all-the#.onn1NorgG

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Anonymous

June 6 2015, 03:39:35 UTC 6 years ago

If my profession had working papers, I would write one just on movement through crowds.
That sounds interesting.
I normally avoid people and walk a bit too fast. It makes it reasonable for me to not recognize people, that I am in a rush, but the truth is I don't recognize people because of some slight neurological deficit. I looked it up once, it affects about 4% of the population of the UK (not sure if of the world) according to the BBC, but anyhow...

I just dodge people. It isn't actually faster to do so in most cases. I would travel just as fast, or even faster, but walking slower but in straight lines at a more even pace.

I would also sweat less, in the case of hot daytime or a sticky (highly humid) night. It's more the high humidity that makes me sweat, than the non-adjusted/dry bulb/actual temperature.

Whenever I walk slow, though, strangers are more friendly. A lot of the men say things like "yes, sir" or "good afternoon". So do school-children of any gender. Women, though, then to just ignore me.

Must need more Axe.

Ah, but I typed all that before I read the rest of your post. I've created space by using energy before, usually when walking with a companion. I thought it was more a side effect of creating comfortable space and decoupling between myself and the companion, however. I noticed people dispersing unconsciously but didn't really have an intention to make them do so most of the time.

I don't tend to walk much at night but sometimes during the predawn (3a.m.-5a.m., sunrise is about 5:30 a.m. here) I would take a break and go for a walk. Return soon after dawn.

There's basically nobody on the roads at that time, nor have I had any problems... also much cooler and less humid regardless of how humid or hot the day before had been.

The rare times that I had any problems, it was my fault for being much too distracted internally. I mean, to the point that I really should have just taken some time in deep thinking for a few hours or days, not any momentary distraction by outside forces or temporary glitch.

In those cases, I suppose some people function around that level continually but to me it is part of intelligence to gather your whilst and avoid the public whilst thinking on a higher plane, or at least set a stable persona in place as you travel, so when accounting for that, I'd say crowds have never been a problem for me.

But, still, I might need more Axe or to walk a lot more slowly in general. Perhaps stop wearing my underwear on the inside.

>>but the truth is I don't recognize people because of some slight neurological deficit. I looked it up once, it affects about 4% of the population of the UK (not sure if of the world) according to the BBC, but anyhow...<<

Faceblindness? I can sympathize. I am notably bad at recognizing people.
Yeah, faceblindness... I couldn't remember the Latin-sounding medical term for it so I just left it out... I have to use mannerisms and such to recognize people, and it can thus take a while especially with people who just stare at you and expect you to remember them because they are remembering you.

On the up-shoot, I'm good at remembering conversations, since what people say is what usually allows me to look up their identity in my formation (or mental database or whatever).

That added attention to deeper detail likely also helped me to recognize sincere from insincere, and turn more into the energy and intentions of a person than their superficial appearance. So, by accident, I never got into a lot of prejudices which are based on those details.

I don't think it is as bad now as it used to be, before, so I might be able to eventually train my brain to practically eliminate it, but I haven't actually tried to do so as yet.
For me it's mostly contextual. I do better recognizing people in places where I usually see them. Somewhere else, I may have no idea who they are.

Re: I walk weirdly

dhyvd

6 years ago

Yeah, faceblindness... I couldn't remember the Latin-sounding medical term for it so I just left it out...

Prosopagnosia.

Re: I walk weirdly

dhyvd

6 years ago

MEN expect women to stand aside???
You've got to be kidding!
Men typically move to one side so that I can pass them.
Don't know exactly why, but that's pretty much how it's been since I hit my twenties.
:^}
Chivalry lives strong around you? ;)

I was born and raised in the Deep South. Chivalry, such as the Deep South chooses to define it, does exist.
Of course it doesn't hurt that I'm a big girl with a habit of looking other people in the eye--although I generally do it with a smile and a nod.
Truthfully? I generally get more trouble from other women than I ever have out of men.
:^\
Talking of warrior mode.

Personally, I find myself slipping into 'stealth mode' if I'm walking somewhere and thinking hard. People walk into me because they didn't see me... which is kind of hard to imagine given that I'm 6ft of rather large hairy scary biker type!
That is an impressive little kendoka. I am reminded of Dr. Infanta, even though she prefers guns.

Re: Wow!

siliconshaman

June 6 2015, 20:10:16 UTC 6 years ago Edited:  June 6 2015, 20:22:37 UTC

That's Jessie, from Ireland.. she's 9 but close enough. This is her in the semi-finals, which in my opinion was the high point. [she made the finals, but that wasn't as good].

Personally, I'm now imagining Dr Infanta as a sort of mini Christian Bale in Equilibrium...
This might explain why I'm 5'3", fat, and slow, yet people tend to step aside for me. I've walked through the bad part of town getting home after the bars closed and not been bothered.

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