Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) wrote,
Elizabeth Barrette
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How Not to Respond When Someone Comes Out as Gay

Tags: gender studies, networking, video
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rhodielady_47

rhodielady_47

August 30 2014, 07:38:04 UTC 6 years ago

I don't have to watch it. I know how viciously they responded.
I swear there are times when I feel like starting a nation-wide campaign to tell kids from one end of the US to the other, not to come out to anyone until you are through with both high school AND college or trade school. Your folks owe you the education/training you need in order to survive and you won't get it if they throw you out of the house because you came out too early. (At least not without taking them to court over it.)
I feel so sorry for that kid.
:(
ysabetwordsmith

Well...

ysabetwordsmith

August 30 2014, 07:48:25 UTC 6 years ago

My reasoning is that it isn't safe before you are a legal adult. Until then, you have no rights except what adults please to give you. So unless you trust your parents literally with your LIFE, don't tell them things that could put you at serious risk.
rhodielady_47

Re: Well...

rhodielady_47

August 30 2014, 16:03:53 UTC 6 years ago

As usual, you cut right to the heart of the matter...
I know that in years past, inside the state of Miss, parents could have such a child committed to an insane aslyum--on their sayso and nothing else. (I've seen Whitfield, the state insane aslum. That is truly nowhere anyone sane wants to spend any time.)
:^(
ysabetwordsmith

Re: Well...

ysabetwordsmith

August 30 2014, 20:45:25 UTC 6 years ago

Evidently that still happens in some places.
patina

Re: Well...

patina

August 31 2014, 14:24:01 UTC 6 years ago

Yes. I can verify this, maybe not about being gay but in the old days even asking too many questions about sex. My great aunt was committed and spent most of her life there apparently for that reason.

These days, it's more likely to be independent camps for gay kids than formal institutionalization, I think.
rhodielady_47

Re: Well...

rhodielady_47

August 31 2014, 15:11:52 UTC 6 years ago

Yeah, where they practically drown those poor kids in religion and demand they change their wicked ways and become straight.
:(
ysabetwordsmith

Re: Well...

ysabetwordsmith

August 31 2014, 17:34:55 UTC 6 years ago

>> Yes. I can verify this, maybe not about being gay but in the old days even asking too many questions about sex. My great aunt was committed and spent most of her life there apparently for that reason. <<

That's disturbing.

>> These days, it's more likely to be independent camps for gay kids than formal institutionalization, I think. <<

Also a problem.
lb_lee

Re: Well...

lb_lee

August 30 2014, 17:41:12 UTC 6 years ago

I agree, but I also know that for some trans people, coming out and getting parental support for early transition is imperative, since puberty is the great ravager for a lot of people. (We got off comparatively lucky.)

So it's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't things. That said, I am REALLY FUCKING GLAD that our brain didn't allow us to know a lot of the dangerous shit until we were legal adults and safely out of the house and with our own bank accounts. It made sure that we wouldn't get ourselves Baker Acted.

--Rogan
cmcmck

cmcmck

August 30 2014, 10:48:34 UTC 6 years ago

Let me tell you how it was coming out to parents as trans.........

Oh, wait..........
ysabetwordsmith

Yes...

ysabetwordsmith

August 30 2014, 14:26:53 UTC 6 years ago

Sadly similar. My sympathies.

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