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Poem: "Let Me Count the Days"
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From: technoshaman Date: February 6th, 2014 04:15 am (UTC) (Link)
Awwwww. Those last three verses are particularly applicable to a couple that's 40-something and have been around the block a few times.

One hundred seventeen. Going on a couple million, we hope.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: February 6th, 2014 04:20 am (UTC) (Link)

Thank you!

>> Awwwww. Those last three verses are particularly applicable to a couple that's 40-something and have been around the block a few times. <<

I'm glad you liked this.

One thing that disappoints me about the romance genre and modern culture is the emphasis on falling in love, but not staying in love. On looks more than actions. On fate rather than choice. There's almost nothing about how to select a compatible and reliable partner, let alone how to build and maintain a relationship. It's like the idiots who throw three logs on a campfire and then all go to sleep. *facepalm*

No wonder the divorce rate is so high.

>> One hundred seventeen. Going on a couple million, we hope. <<

So mote it be.
From: technoshaman Date: February 6th, 2014 09:07 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Thank you!

*nods* Staying in love can be a stone bitch...

As for selecting partners... part of the yea or nay decision on a given potential partner is *getting to know* that partner well. Simply having time together is a good start, but actually having *meaningful conversations* is huge... but where to start?

My partner found us the UnGame. It's actually fairly old (1972); it's basically a series of flash cards with questions as discussion topics. We used it extensively early on, and have been using it recently as a reconnecting tool... you can get it directly from the creator here. There's a board game version, one for kids, for families, and for older and younger couples in addition to the general one. Full disclosure: Just a very satisfied customer. :)
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: February 14th, 2014 02:47 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Thank you!

>> *nods* Staying in love can be a stone bitch... <<

Too true.

>> As for selecting partners... part of the yea or nay decision on a given potential partner is *getting to know* that partner well. Simply having time together is a good start, but actually having *meaningful conversations* is huge... but where to start? <<

I agree. Intellectual Foreplay is handy for that.

>> My partner found us the UnGame. It's actually fairly old (1972); it's basically a series of flash cards with questions as discussion topics. We used it extensively early on, and have been using it recently as a reconnecting tool... you can get it directly from the creator here. There's a board game version, one for kids, for families, and for older and younger couples in addition to the general one. Full disclosure: Just a very satisfied customer. :) <<

That sounds cool.
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