busyMost people are late occasionally. Some people are late chronically. It is usually due to carelessness and/or lack of organizational skills. So the first things you want to check are:
* Does the person realize that being late causes difficulties for self and others?
* Does the person CARE about those difficulties?
* Have they taken basic steps to avoid lateness, such as having accurate timepieces (if feasible), making schedules, and studying organizational techniques?
The article raises an interesting issue: ability to estimate time required to complete a task. Some people are really good at this. Others are really not. To some extent, this can be compensated by timing oneself and memorizing or recording how long it takes to do things, rather than trying to imagine how long it will take. (Frex, I have timed myself writing, so I know that it takes me -- very roughly -- an hour to produce a thousand words. Sometimes considerably more or less, but that's a good ballpark estimate.) This ability is something that can be measured objectively by giving someone tasks and asking them to estimate the completion time. It should be measured with both familiar and unfamiliar tasks, because skill at estimation may differ for those categories.
Closely related to this, not explictly mentioned in the article, but implied in the fellow's description of his experiences, is the ability to get tasks done -- or lack thereof. Some people are excellent at staying on track and dealing with unforseen complications. Others are not. To some extent, this can be compensated by padding the deadline. It doesn't always work, but for most people, it reduces the frequency and duration of lateness. Like estimation, task progress is a thing that can be measured.
We'll set aside the social issues of demanding more from people than they can possibly accomplish, or expecting them to get places faster than is safe or possible, which can cause lateness. We'll also skip folks whose presence bends the spacetime continuum and/or causes timepieces to malfunction, thus making them often late (or early). Those are separate challenges outside this discussion of mental processing of time management.
It's one thing to blame people for being careless. It's quite another to demand that they perform well in an area where they have little innate talent or ability to acquire skill. The latter is a disability -- a pretty bad one, in our culture. So while most people who are frequently late probably do that out of indifference or ignorance, some probably do it out of disability. And the appropriate responses are different: indifferent people need to learn empathy (or how to emulate it), ignorant people need to learn time-management skills, and disabled people may need an assistant or some other accommodation for a potentially life-wrecking problem that can't simply be trained away.
Chance of people actually bothering to test for this? Or trying to ameliorate the various reasons for lateness? Probably almost zero, despite the fact that lateness is something people complain about frequently both in personal and work contexts. Because then they might have to do something other than cast blame or make exuses, and that would be work and likely cost money. I bet they'd rather just keep being late or bitching at late people.
Re: Thoughts
August 28 2013, 10:36:06 UTC 7 years ago
and yeah, I bend time so much sometimes that it'll reverse or even skip. Controlling it is as yet imperfect however. Which is a pity, because that would be immeasurably useful in so many ways. The irony is, I never seem to get enough time to mediate & practice! *wry grin*
As for always being early.. it's mostly because I always use the worst-case scenario and plan accordingly, which means I usually leave myself far too much time in case of things happening that rarely do. A product of overly negative parenting maybe, I dunno.. But whenever I catch myself doing it, and think that 'nah, it'll be alright'.... that's when it all goes horribly wrong!
Re: Thoughts
August 28 2013, 18:33:14 UTC 7 years ago
I've done that on occasion.
>> Controlling it is as yet imperfect however. <<
It takes practice to improve, and insofar as I've seen, nobody gets perfect control. But it's possible to gain enough to be useful.
>> The irony is, I never seem to get enough time to mediate & practice! *wry grin* <<
Try practicing on the road. That's usually a handy place to shrink time. Just be careful not to miss an exit.