February 29th, 2016

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Rose & Bay Awards

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Villain Bingo Card 2-29-16

Here is my card for the Villain Bingo fest on [community profile] allbingo. It will run from March 1-31.  It's all about antagonists and their traits.  I have plenty of villains, but not many of my series actually revolve around them.  Path of the Paladins definitely does.  Polychrome Heroics has some fantastic supervillains.  Frankenstein's Family has the hunters, who have appeared only briefly before but pose a significant threat.  See all my 2016 bingo cards.)

If you'd like to sponsor a particular square, especially if you have an idea for what character, series, or situation it would fit -- talk to me and we'll work something out. I've had a few requests for this and the results have been awesome so far. This is a good opportunity for those of you with favorites that don't always mesh well with the themes of my monthly projects. I may still post some of the fills for free, because I'm using this to attract new readers; but if it brings in money, that means I can do more of it. That's part of why I'm crossing some of the bingo prompts with other projects, such as the Poetry Fishbowl.


Underlined prompts have been filled.

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VILLAIN BINGO

INTEGRITYabusiveimposterjusticeguerrilla or terrorist
manipulativeloverevengesphere of influenceleader
principled or ethicalpolice or officialPOWERMOTIVATIONhatred
needAUTHORITYhonestdeceitfulrebel
privilegegreedselfishslavefear
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Monday Update 2-29-16

These are some posts from the later part of last week in case you missed them:
BINGO: double blackout
New Page: Dr. Infanta
Guide Pages for Calliope and Cassandra
Read "Faerie Dust" by Shiori_makiba
Ashley's Vehicle
Read "Definition of Family" by Dialecticdreamer
'Ohana Index
Sex/Gender Identity Flags


My big news this week is the performance of my poem "Origami Emotion" on YouTube. \o/

The next Poetry Fishbowl will be on Tuesday, March 1 with a theme of "building a future."  I hope to see you then!


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Poetry in Microfunding:
"Holding Hope and Love" belongs to Polychrome Heroics. Cheersquad helps a lot of people.  "Like a Shag on a Rock" belongs to Polychrome Heroics.  The Spectrum complain about Australia.  "Hostage to the Character" belongs to Polychrome Heroics.  Hyperspaceman asks Calliope for help in dealing with a bank robbery gone wrong.


Torn World writing update:
Approved as canon: "Unicorns on Parade" "Spruce Deer" "Wandering the Heights" (poetry).  Back to me for edits: "Winterheart" (parts 2-3), "Stinging Like Nettles"  "Off the Clock" (poetry).  Currently in front of the canon board: "Ghost Bat" (nonfiction). Drafted: "Like Ash Before the Wind," "From Dark to Bright," "The Inappropriate But Useful Disposal of Lettuce" "A Thin Red Trail" (fiction), "Changes in the Wind" (poetry), "Southern Breads" "Tangleweed Article" (articles), Jularei (character sheet).  In revision at home: "Water Dance," "When the Wind's Teeth Sing," "Raining Kittens," "Finding the Holes," "Broken Hopes," "Brewing Beauty," "Little Paws in the Licenses" (fiction), "The Smallest Invaders," "Raising the Future" "Beach Pies" "Unsolid Ground" "Riding from the Rescue" "To Ride Death" (poetry), "Rammer" (nonfiction).  Currently writing: "Catch of the Day," "A Cold Clear Night" (fiction).


The snow has melted and it's muddy here.  Seen at the bird feeders this week: large flock of sparrows, several mourning doves, a pair of cardinals, a squirrel, a downy woodpecker, a red-bellied woodpecker, and a house finch.  Snowdrops, crocus, and daffodils are sprouting.  Thanks to some tree trimmers, I now have a huge pile of mulch to work with, so I've started spreading that around.  Yay! 
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Bisexual Romance

Here is a thoughtful post about bisexual romance.

The about labeling romance based on sex/gender instead of orientation raises another issue that I've been exploring recently: cross-orientation relationships. There's almost no discussion of it, and that causes problems. Cross-orientation relationships can happen when someone with a wider span hooks up with someone of a narrower span, like bi/gay or bi/straight. It can also happen when someone falls in love with a person of incompatible orientation, but they don't want to give up the relationship, so they try to retune it into something both of them can live with. Frex, if a lesbian falls in love with a straight woman, they may not be compatible sexually but might be able to adapt into a queerplatonic relationship. Ace with anyone sexual is another example.  

I think my favorite cross-orientation relationship right now is Socket and Fortressa.  Socket is a lesbian.  Fortressa was previously involved with men but decided to abandon the whole love/sex thing -- and I don't think she's just celibate, I think she somehow hit her sexuality with a wrench until it crumpled into a motionless lump.  It certainly isn't the same shape it was,  and she doesn't respond to men the same way anymore.  So.  They started off with Socket in love with Fortressa, who had sworn off love, so Socket didn't say anything about it and set about becoming friends instead.  That has actually worked pretty well, except that now the cat is out of the bag and they have to deal with that realization.

I think that, if people don't even realize this is an option then they miss out on a lot of opportunities, and if they stumble into it by chance, it can cause tension because the patterns don't match exactly. Just as a M/F relationship requires accommodation of the sex/gender difference, orientation differences can take some adaptation too. That's hard if you don't know what the heck you're doing.

This especially comes up with bi folks, because while the inclination toward bisexuality is common, the number of people actually identifying as bi is a lot smaller. Many bi folks join up with someone(s) who is gay or straight. And some of the problems in bi erasure come precisely from that lack of awareness about cross-orientation relationships; without it, people have a nasty habit of thinking that being with someone of the opposite sex makes you straight, or the same sex makes you gay. It's a case where labeling can make things clearer: "No, I'm not gay. I'm a bisexual man in a cross-orientation relationship with a gay man."

The question of combinations is another one.  A majority of bi romance is written as MFF or FMM.  In effect that merges bi and poly romance.  This is a problem because many bi people are not poly, and many poly people are not bi, although there is a fair amount of overlap.  

I have some characters who are both bi and poly.  I have some poly families.  I actually have more poly families than people may notice, because not all of them are tied together entirely by sex, and I count poly based on strong, lasting relationships rather than just fucking -- it's about who moves through life as a social unit.  So if you mapped out the lines there would be some sex, some romance, some queerplatonic, etc. within a poly family, and that actually seems to be the norm based on poly families I have known.  Not all of them are a blob of everyone-sexing-everyone.

Plenty of my bi characters are in exclusive relationships, though.  Stan and Lawrence, Danso and Noah, they're in stable binary relationships.  So as usual, I'm doing my "tell ALL the stories" thing.