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Different Affect
Here is a cartoon about different affect.

I am reminded of fairytales about the fey, who would cry at weddings and laugh at funerals -- and get hit for it, and go home to Underhill because the humans were so horrible. But there wasn't anything wrong  with the fey. They were just different.

So much of therapy is about forced affect. About training people to show what is expected, not who they really are. It doesn't help the way those therapists think it does.  Some people have the same feelings as everyone else, but not at the same times and they may not show it in the same way.  That's okay.  They have the same right to express themselves as everyone else does.

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fayanora From: fayanora Date: June 11th, 2017 07:55 pm (UTC) (Link)
Cool!

I'm reminded of hysterical laughter. Also, isn't crying at weddings acceptable now?
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 11th, 2017 07:58 pm (UTC) (Link)

Yes...

>> I'm reminded of hysterical laughter. <<

That's one good example, yes.

>> Also, isn't crying at weddings acceptable now? <<

If it's a few happy tears, and you're presenting as female, you can get away with it. If you are not female, crying is generally frowned upon. If you look really sad at a wedding, someone is liable to scold you for "spoiling the occasion" or "not being happy for the couple."
fayanora From: fayanora Date: June 11th, 2017 08:01 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Yes...

Ah yes.

Also, there was a Tumblr post a week or two back with gifs of a little girl in Syria who was having a trauma reaction of looking happy when she was actually miserable, couldn't remember her own name, and didn't know where her father was. It was very sad.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 11th, 2017 08:06 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Yes...

Yowch. That kind of thing is so hard to handle, because the mixed signals don't attract the right kind of help.

Huh, I don't think I have a character yet who reverses affect like that.
fayanora From: fayanora Date: June 11th, 2017 08:08 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Yes...

Yeah me neither. Closest I have is that the Ah'Koi Bahnis aren't as physically expressive with their emotions, generally, because so many of them are empaths.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 11th, 2017 10:10 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Yes...

That makes sense. They have other modes of expression. Whales don't really have facial expressions either. It's all large-body motions, vocalizations, or telempathy.
fayanora From: fayanora Date: June 11th, 2017 10:13 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Yes...

I have been having some trouble codifying the AKB expressions. I wanted to write a story where humans have to adapt to life on Traipah, and struggle with it, but the codification issues have put that idea on hold.
From: rhodielady_47 Date: June 12th, 2017 07:09 am (UTC) (Link)
As much psych study as I've had, and I've never heard of different affect before now.
Never met anyone who had it either. I wonder how rare it is?
:^\



ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: June 12th, 2017 07:28 am (UTC) (Link)

Well...

Most often I have seen references to flat affect or blunted affect. There are historic and fairytale descriptions of people having opposite expressions and/or feelings. Different affect is how I described that. Because the original description on the video implies no feelings, and that's not accurate.
From: rhodielady_47 Date: June 13th, 2017 09:49 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Well...

Fairy tales, when you think about it, are an excellent means of transmitting knowledge in societies without reading and writing skills or easy access to books.
:^)
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