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ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: December 11th, 2015 07:10 am (UTC) (Link)

Thoughts

>>Unfortunately, both the article and its author are problematic<<

Well, the article was obviously fractious.

>>The tl;dr version of the issue is that the most common, and most vociferous opposition to trans women being recognized as women comes from people who have a heavy emotional investment in a separatist characterization of the gender identity "woman". Only passing references to a more inclusionary view are included, and one of those is by way of a disparaging reference.<<

There really is a lot of headbutting between literalist and constructionist views of gender. I don't think that's productive. Because the thing is, everyone has a body but not everyone identifies with it to the same degree. A person with a very concrete, literalist view of gender can have a very different trans experience that someone with a constructionist, fluid view -- and that means they may benefit from different therapies.

Even the idea of gender therapy is a huge hotspot because so many people have been traumatized by bad therapists and there is the whole gatekeeper issue. But one of my takeaways from this article is that caregivers should not promise more than they can deliver, and sometimes that's a mistake they make. They want to be able to fix everything. Well, before you can tell that, you need to know exactly what the issue is. A good therapist can help with that -- especially in terms of figuring out where the dissatisfaction is. The shape of your body? Your clothes? Your DNA? How people treat you? How you feel about yourself? Different solutions are required, and some can be changed while others can't yet. If you're going to avoid pitfalls like "I thought this would fix me but it didn't" then you need either a great deal of private soul-searching or some good therapy, or a combination of both. I don't think it should be required -- people need to make their own life decisions, even bad ones -- but they should be aware that one of the risks is going through transition and being disappointed that it's not enough.

This is the only time I've seen someone else writing about it. And when I mention that I'm not interested in a physical transition because it wouldn't make me feel any better, the prevailing responses have ranged from dismissive to downright nasty. *shrug* Well, their opinions don't change who I am any more than does this pale-human-girl-shaped meatsuit. Whatever. It's just the kind of thing I think people should talk about more so that folks get blindsided by it less.

Preferably, talk about it in less snotty ways that don't involve trying to rip your rights out of someone else's.
ng_moonmoth From: ng_moonmoth Date: December 17th, 2015 01:50 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Thoughts

Your comment got me thinking about my own perspectives on the matters you discussed, and how they relate to topics covered in the article. I got seriously interested, and by the time I was done, had written more than two comments' worth describing my own (and others') views of the gender, transition, and trans community issues raised in those places. So I posted in my own blog, and I'm linking here.

I'm not wise enough in LJ etiquette to know whether subsequent commentary belongs here or on my post. Given that either might happen, interested people should check both places.
ysabetwordsmith From: ysabetwordsmith Date: December 17th, 2015 02:18 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: Thoughts

>>Your comment got me thinking about my own perspectives on the matters you discussed, and how they relate to topics covered in the article. I got seriously interested, and by the time I was done, had written more than two comments' worth describing my own (and others') views of the gender, transition, and trans community issues raised in those places. So I posted in my own blog, and I'm linking here.<<

Thank you! I have linked to your post from mine above.

>>I'm not wise enough in LJ etiquette to know whether subsequent commentary belongs here or on my post. Given that either might happen, interested people should check both places.<<

Here if people are responding to me, there if responding to your post, and either if citing both.
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