There's a thread on Reddit asking rapists to discuss their motivations. If we actually look at those motivations, we may figure out ways of dismantling or diverting them so as to reduce the problem of sexual violence. Enter your cut contents here. Miscommunication appears in multiple aspects. Teaching people of all genders to communicate clearly would reduce not only sexual violence but many other problems. The method I learned in college starts with separate presentations for men and for women, then a coed discussion. While not a complete solution on its own, it definitely makes useful progress. Peer pressure is a frequent part of sexual disasters for all genders. People may be urged to have sex when they don't want to, or told that certain sexual acts are unacceptable. We could work on teaching folks how to resist peer pressure, and more importantly, that interfering in someone else's sex life is unacceptable. Better yet, we could work to dismantle peer pressure in general by interrupting it when it happens in schools, as a few places have done to good effect. Part of the analysis in the article mentioned that these men often did not look at a woman's face, or not until late in the encounter, as if this was somehow surprising. But it's not. Consider the "assumed male gaze" that predominates in advertising and other media: it quite frequently cuts off a woman's head or places her face out of view, when it is not placing her face in a position suggestive of a blow job. In this regard society encourages young men to view women as faceless. So one way to address the problem would be to stop defacing women in the media. Does this list of stuff sound like things that few if any people would be willing to engage? Well, yes. That's why it's called a "rape culture." Modern America contains many aspects, some subtle and others obvious, that contribute to an environment conducive to sexual violence; and many people wish to maintain that status quo.
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